Now, the word "goal" is a perfectly good word. "Something to be accomplished." Nothing wrong about it. But for me...somehow the word "goal" gets twisted and morphed into, "I'm doing it, so you should do it too." Like, "My goal is to get through college without debt," or something like that. "My goal." Two perfectly innocent words suddenly become full of pressure. "My goal should be your goal too, because I acheived my goal, and if i can, you can."
Why is that? I don't know. You'd have to ask my subconcious. I'd rather use, "Things I want." Things I want. simple, and it means the same thing, pretty much. But these words carry no pressure or anything. Which is what I love about them. It's probably that letter "I." I. Me. Mine. No one else's.
Some things I want: to fall in love; get married in the temple; be a mom; be an author.
Feels less of a to-do list when i call it things I want instead of goals.
the thing about the word "want" is it implies selfishness, greed, and a hint of malice. Because your "wants" come first, and get over what anyone else needs because you got a "want" you gotta have...Plus it kinda feels like entitlement.
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It's ok to have wants. And goals. Maybe a better word is desire? Because ultimately if you don't get what you want or attain your goal, there is a sense of failure and disappointment. But a desire means you would like something, but aren't disappointed if plans or life change. Because ultimately we are only in charge of our choices and actions, not so much what happens to us.